A Place To Call Home

This past summer I had an opportunity to meet
thousands of children in and around the AVOH campuses at Kabulonga,
Chongwe, and Kafue. Zambia lacks in many resources such as
electricity, fuel, food, and hope, but one thing they do not lack in is
an abundance of children.

In meeting these children it only takes a few minutes of looking them
in the eyes to realize no matter how young they appear to be – their
eyes tell a story of a life that has “seen” many more days than their
tender age can account for.

Bibian was no different. Quiet and soft spoken are two characteristics
that fit Bibian. After spending 10 minutes with her and allowing her to
share her story, you realize that strength and courage are the
characteristics that better define her.

Bibian is currently in the 9th grade at the AVOH school in Kabulonga.
She has been attending there since she was in the 6th grade back in
2012.

Bibian’s mother and father divorced when she was only 2 and since that
time Bibian has never known her biological father. She has not seen nor
heard from him and she has no knowledge of where he is at. Her mother
has since remarried 3 times. In Zambian culture, a woman remarrying
does not equal the acceptance of her children from her previous
marriage/s. This was the case with Bibian. The men her mother has been
connected with have created difficult situations for Bibian including
not accepting her as well as physically beating her mother.

Bibian Sares her testimony

A few years back, Bibian had been sent to live with her aunt, as she was no longer wanted by her mother. Nothing is free in Zambia, housing, food, nor education. Bibian’s mother does not work, she has no father to provide for her, so this makes Bibian a “burden”. A burden in her extended family’s eyes as well as a burden to her mother who often blames Bibian for the struggles with her husband/s. In this culture these Zambian children are left to work through these struggles on their own. Every waking day they must deal with the reality of finding a roof to cover their head, nshima to fill their aching stomachs, and hope that someone will pay their school fees so they can go to or stay in school – and these children see those items in exactly that hierarchy. Needing these needs met puts these children in a very vulnerable situation.

Being sent to stay with her aunt alleviated the immediate need to put a roof over her head, but since the house is owned by her uncle, this created a debt that must be paid, Bibian had to “earn” her right to stay there. Her uncle ensured this dept was paid by repeated rapings. Initially Bibian talked to her family about this, but they just instructed her to “keep quiet” – that exposing this would ensure her and possibly the aunt would be kicked out of the home putting them both on the street.

Being a student of AVOH, Bibian turned to the school staff pleading for a place to live, fleeing from the sexual slavery her uncle was subjecting her to. She came to the school asking in her words, “for a place to stay at the AVOH boarding house so I will not be a burden on others.”. Unfortunately at the time of her initial request the boarding house for girls was at maximum capacity. She was able to find a place to stay for about a month until an opening became available. Bibian is now living at the boarding house with the other girls. Bibian has started the process of healing.

Unfortunately Bibians story is not unique in the streets and alleys of Lusaka. Far too often when a parent dies, or there is a divorce, the child becomes a burden that is no longer wanted. Once a female child is of age, 14, she must pay for her upkeep sometimes with sex. So many girls are sexually abused in order to eat, have shelter, or to get the ability to go to school. Some are even forced into undesirable marriages by this tender age, it is not uncommon for an older man to take a teenage bride.

Bibian has found safe refuge in the AVOH boarding house, if you ask her today what she would like, she will tell you “I want to make a difference in the lives of others when I graduate.”

  • A place to call home

    Bibian finds a safe refuge in our girls boarding home. This bed was an answer to her prayers and pleas.

  • Bibians Family

  • Something to smile about

    Bibian enjoys school and learning. She is also learning about the love of Christ.

  • A Good Father

    To the children in the boarding program the men and women of AVOH serve as surrogate fathers and mothers. It is a privilege to serve in these capacities. These children long for nurturing and compassionate relationships.

Expanding our “Home”

More than anything Bibian’s story has been pressed into the hearts of the staff and volunteers of AVOH as a call to move forward with expanding the girls boarding house. We are currently under a capital initiative to build a dormitory that 100 vulnerable young girls can call home. A place where Christ can be proclaimed, souls can be restored, and a safe refuge for these young ladies where they can grow to be all that God has planned.

Our staff in Zambia daily deal with the heart breaking task of explaining to these young girls that their simply isn’t room. Will you help us change this part of the story? We need your help in raising the $275,000.00 in order to bring this life changing sanctuary to reality.

Girls Dorm